My response to this article from Metro: Are there more dating categories than ‘single’ or ‘in a relationship’?
Whatever your relationship status it may be, whatever you choose, it is imperative important to have integrity within your SELF.
When you’re out of integrity with yourself, you will experience emotional discomfort, anger, feeling of helplessness and a sense of sadness. You feel like something feels off or just isn’t right. You start questioning the reality of the world that you are living in. This can lead to having trouble sleeping at night, or simply being able to fully concentrate or focus on what’s in front of you.
When you’re out of alignment with what you know deep in your heart is true and real for you, you’ll experience this as a feeling or a sense of being disconnected from the whole.
Integrity matters in your personal, business and love life. For any relationship to work, it needs to be governed by strong principles based on trust and honesty. No relationship should require you to pretend to be someone you’re not. If people don’t like who you really are, why would you want them to be a part of your life anyway?
Take for Jake, he created multiple online dating profiles, he enjoys texting and telling people that he meets that he is a different people – an ex-model, ex-banking now a tech investor, etc. In reality, he has a daughter and his wife is 5 months pregnant. Jake has multiple phones and finds it hard to keep track, or to remember whom he told what. Jake knows deep within his heart that help and support are needed, but he finds it hard to change his pattern/old habits. How many men do you know who act like
ocial chameleons; they are a different guy with you, a different guy at home, at work, when travelling, etc. Instead of being a single self, they live as multiple selves, transforming into what they think their family, parents, wives, fiancee…want them to be. Jake, in his 40’s now, ends up feeling exhausted, fragmented and confused as to who he really is. He is denying himSELF from living a fulfilled, inspired life.
Think about the commitments you’ve made to yourself and to others. In which areas of your life are you lacking integrity? The first step towards integrity is being honest with yourself. Be who you are. Say what you mean. Do what you say you will do.
Take personal responsibility for your life. Whatever the relationship status you want it to be, the single, most important relationship that you can ever have is to have integrity within yourSELF.